I have begun reaching out to survivors. This week I spoke with the widow of a longtime friend to learn from her experience and to share what I have gone through. Those of us who have or have had a family member who suffered from depression share a common bond. We see it, we know it is there and we try to help. But even our best efforts are not enough.
Depression is not conducive to rational thinking. Our loved ones become good at hiding what they do not want us to see. We are not medical experts and even if we were trained, we may not understand the significance of certain behavior. There are times when a depressed person engages in aggressive behavior in order to maintain control of the situation. And against advice, the depressed person engages in reckless behavior like driving when they are too tired or not in the right frame of mine.
I believe that many people suffering from depression will not seek out help. It is not that they do not want to get better, but like any other daily task, getting ready and driving to a therapist appointment, and arriving on time may seem formidable. It takes them out of there safe routine; out of their comfortable environment.
Getting answers is difficult when talking to the depressed person. They try to avoid the issue or they just lie to make you think they are fine.
But we must use what we have learned and I intend to learn as much as I can through these conversations. You will be hearing these stories. If you know someone who has a story to share, please ask them to email me at TrialsofLuke@gmail.com.
The Trials of Luke 